It
was the first day of Christmas break, and I had stopped by the office for a
couple of minutes on my way to do frantic, last-minute shopping. As I was walking out the door, the phone
rang. Don’t answer, advised an internal voice to which I have since
learned to pay heed. But answer it I
did.
On
the other end of the line was the Director of Admissions at a large public
university located outside Virginia. He explained
that on his desk was the application folder for one of my students. I cringed when he named the student, whose
record was, to put it politely, undistinguished (or perhaps distinguished by his
lack of achievement). On the student’s
folder was a one-word note from the Associate Director—“Why?” But, the Director continued, he had read my
recommendation and there was something telling him he should give the student a
chance.
I
stayed silent, waiting for the other shoe to drop. Finally he said, “I’m sorry, the best I can
do is offer him summer school admission.”
As I was doing a celebratory dance (which you should be thankful you
didn’t have to see), I responded that I thought that was fair. As we said our goodbyes, he asked one final
question, “Have you ever thought about becoming a creative writer?”
Describing
the recommendation letter as creative writing does not mean that it is fiction,
only that it is an art form. I’ve spent most of the past month thinking only
about writing recommendations, but now that I seem to have survived November 1,
I thought I would take a moment to reflect on the art of the recommendation.
We
are about halfway through what my children used to call “recommendation”
season, the time of year when I was grumpier than usual. I am envious of colleagues who are able to
get the bulk of their rec letters written during the summer. I’ve never been able to do that, and might be
too old to start now. As a result, the
rhythm of the fall is dictated by the next deadline and the number of letters
that need to be written. I wish I were
as organized and disciplined in every part of my life as I am during
recommendation season.
In
the independent school world the value and impact of “the letter” may be overrated. When I was first hired as a college counselor
thirty years ago, it seemed that the ability to write was the only skill anyone
was concerned about. Today I suspect
that rec letters from teachers have higher value, seen as more likely to tell
the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
The
counselor recommendation letter serves several purposes. It is part legal brief, making the case for
the student and laying out evidence. It
is part character study, bringing the application and transcript to life. It can also serve the function that footnotes
serve in big, scholarly non-fiction books.
If the transcript is the primary text, the rec letter provides the
footnotes.
In
his book, The Call of Stories, the
psychiatrist Robert Coles says that each person has a unique story and that the
purpose of psychiatry is to discern that story.
In a perfect world, the job of a college counselor in writing a
recommendation is to tell the student’s story.
Of course, we don’t live in a perfect world. Our public school colleagues who are faced
with ridiculous counseling loads and myriad other duties that push college
counseling onto the back burner would need super powers to tell their students’
stories in any more than a superficial way.
I
think there are four types of stories (if I’m missing others, I’d love to
know):
--The story of accomplishment
--The story of growth
--The story of adversity overcome
--The story of potential
Obviously
some of these are easier to tell than others.
How
long should a recommendation letter be?
The prevailing wisdom is one page, that admissions officers have neither
the time nor the interest in reading more.
I get that, but it will be no surprise to regular readers of this blog
that brevity is a challenge for me and my letters are usually longer. My thinking is that I have one opportunity to
say what I need to say on the student’s behalf. I have friends at other schools
that have moved to a bullet-point format in their letters, but I’m not ready to
move in that direction. The change I
made several years ago is to frontload my letters so that the opening paragraph
makes the argument in brief for a reader who chooses not to read the entire
letter.
I
have always believed that recommendation letters are read negatively, that if
you don’t say something it is assumed that you can’t. If you highlight how diligent a student is,
it may be read as evidence that the student lacks ability. A rec letter is an opportunity to put a
student’s record in context, to explain a grade or a class or a teacher or life
circumstances that are relevant in understanding the student’s journey.
Recommendation
writers are like politicians, always looking for the perfect euphemism, the
sufficiently vague phrase that is open to interpretation, preferably faulty. Many years ago, Robert Thornton, an economics
professor at Lehigh, developed the Lexicon of Inconspicuously Ambiguous
Recommendations, or LIAR. His examples
were oriented toward job recommendations, and were meaningful for what they
didn’t say rather than what they did.
The phrase “You will be fortunate to get this person to work for you”
could be high praise or might be missing the important information (no one else
has been able to get them to work). In a
college recommendation, describing a student as “entrepreneurial” could mean
they sell drugs to all their friends, while “he hopes to become an engineer”
might be missing the all-important (but he better learn to drive a train). And should the statement, “I would place him
in a class by himself” be interpreted figuratively or literally?
The
biggest ethical issue attached to recommendation writing is what information to
include and what to leave out. I see my
job as being an advocate for the student, presenting the best case I can for
them, without compromising my credibility.
I have therefore never written a recommendation intended to be negative. I try to follow my grandmother’s advice—“If
you can’t say something nice, say nothing at all.”